It was one of those long conversations with someone where you just agree on everything! We were twinning on where our lives are at, what we like to do, the types of people that we are and everything in between. We had many ‘YASSSS!!’ moments of pure appreciation that we were exactly on the same page.
I understand they have their own lives to focus on, they have babies that rely on them, they have bigger grown up responsibilities. They don’t have time for me to be moaning on about my life, for me to drag them down. Equally so I don’t have time to waste. I need to be out, meeting new people, creating new experiences and finding me again.
I NEED this person in my life. I don’t need them for nights out, for day trips, for coffee meetups… I need them because they are more like family. They are beautifully honest, we’ve been through highs and lows and we’ve stuck together no matter what. This is a special kind of friend and definitely one to keep.
My friend project didn’t mean that I completely cut everyone I already knew out of my life. I have some amazing people in my life including long distant ones. Sometimes it can be difficult to stay in contact with long distant friends and life gets in the way, but true friends don’t mind and are happy to hear from you
I went to my next ‘play it safe’ and avoid human contact embarrassment option… the internet! Lots of people have met each other online for dating and I figured it’s got to be the same for a friend right?
I was nervous and anxious. Could I really do a whole day out alone? My anxiety took a hold of me; what if something happens? What if I suddenly fall ill? But The Friend Coach in me knew I had to do this for me and for all other women like me out there.
A short poem for everyone fighting each day to make their dreams come true.
I think the best thing to come from this journey is that suddenly you see the world so differently. You are more aware of how you spend your time, who is around you and you focus on quality conversation. You have to look for the opportunity to make friends wherever you go. Unfortunately there is no secret location that all other 20 somethings are waiting to find other friends.
My Friend Project is allowing me to discover friends, try new things and ultimately reinvent myself at The Friend Coach so that I can help others do the same. My first research lead me to whether there is such a thing at the PERFECT friends. I narrowed my findings into the following…