13: How to stop comparing your Christmas

Christmas is an exciting time, with lots going on you are bound to want to share it on your social media pages. As you scroll through your timelines you will see lots of photos of dinners, gifts, selfies, engagement rings, elaborate gifts and more. Although it’s lovely to share the excitement it can leave you comparing your Christmas to others.

In this podcast episode, I am going to discuss how to stop comparing your Christmas,  4 top tips to remember about social media and I read a love letter especially for you.

You can download it on iTunes here.

Show notes

Comparing yourself to others will only leave you feeling inadequate. Remember; motivation does not come from comparison. You may have thoughts of feeling lonely, feeling like you’re not good enough, feeling like you didn’t get anywhere near what other people got…and although you know you shouldn’t be feeling this way and you ARE grateful for what you do have it does leave a void. Social media impacts everyone in this way at some point or another. It is probably already having a bigger impact on you than you realise.

The reality is you should not look at what others have, look at where they are and wish you could swap places. Don’t put yourself in competition with others because you are on your own path. You are uniquely you and no one knows what that is like. The best way to protect your own energy this Christmas is to not compare yourself to others especially on social media.

Here are 4 top tips to allow yourself the freedom to enjoy your Christmas with content.

1. Remember social media is a highlights reel

People are literally posting the best bits! No one’s posting the dull bits. In fact, most of the social media images were already curated and have been scheduled to post on the big day. You too can just as easily post the highlights real of your day and other people will wish they were you. Create a high vibe of joy for everyone that you come across. A feel-good way to make your way through social media is to share likes and lovely comments in abundance. It will light you up and a make you feel good.

2. A photograph can be manipulated

It’s amazing what a good crop and a filter can do. The stack of presents under the tree can be made to look like something from a film, the smiles can be planned and the dinner curated into a magnificent spread. Photographs are intentionally taken to look their best for social media.

3. ‘Likes’ mean nothing in the REAL world

Someone with 100 likes on their Christmas dinner photo might be having the worst Christmas ever. A simple snapshot of the day is not a reflection of the person, their day or their life. How many ‘likes’ a photo gets actually doesn’t mean anything apart from an ego boost for the person that posted it. No matter what the social media page says, nobody is perfect. I have worked with women previously that have 10s of thousands of followers and still feel lonely. Happiness all starts within, not with being accepted by others.

4. No one should be spending their Christmas scrolling through social media

If you know that scrolling endlessly through social media will make you feel like crap, just don’t do it! Delete the apps from your phone and create a magical Christmas for yourself. If you have a happy home life; it is likely you’re off work, surrounded by family and friends and it’s a rare day you won’t have anything to worry about other than just relaxing and enjoying yourself and that is exactly what you should be doing. Eat, drink and be merry!!  

A little letter to you

Dear you, yes you the beautiful person reading this,

I want to wish you a wonderful Christmas, however, that looks like to you.

If Christmas time is a struggle for you, I’d like to remind you to take things slowly this year. Use it as a time to rest and to give yourself lots of love. Enjoy the simple things like a walk in your local village, a glass of your favourite tipple and a long soak in some luxurious bath products. Christmas can be exactly what you want it to be and you have the power to create a magical day for yourself.
Take time out to yourself. Spend time alone and think of the year that has gone by. How do you feel? Write everything down. Write what you didn’t like about it, write what you loved about and write about the periods of growth.

Take some time to imagine the best things that 2019 can bring you. Create some goals, put together a vision board and manifest high energy for the new year. Things can and will be different if you are willing to always hope.

This is your time to take control. Allow yourself to be happy and show yourself the love you so freely give to others.

I’m sending you lots of virtual love, hugs and chocolate. xxxx


I will be doing just that and having a recharge over Christmas and New Year. I am going to be taking a little break from the Podcast for a few weeks now but will be back in February. January will be spent working on 2 very exciting projects. One of which will be The Make Friends Club. I’m working really hard with the team to have everything ready to launch in February. This is an online community for women to make friends, have fun and empower each other. If you would love to join the tribe head over to www.makefriendsclub.com and register to be notified when we launch. As always, you will still find me sharing positive vibes throughout December and January on my instagram page.

I am sending lots of love and light to you all. I would like to thank every single one of you that has supported me and the how to make friends brand this year. I am so grateful and can’t wait to bring you more in 2019. Together we are curing loneliness and that is pretty epic.

Have a wonderful Christmas, Gemma xx

Author: Gemma Scopes

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