Social media makes me depressed
In the digital world of social media, we have communication at our fingertips yet more and more people are feeling lonely, disconnected and depressed. Research has shown the average person spends around 4 years of their lives on their phones, but this has resulted in people being more anti-social than ever. As your ‘friend list’ grows your real friendships are not getting the attention they deserve.
Society has started to measure self-worth from likes and follows rather than embracing self-love, it’s no wonder more and more people are feeling depressed. Don’t forget that you have the choice to switch off, to take back control and allow yourself to be happy.
Social media is like McDonalds, it is not designed to be used all the time. If used correctly, social media can be a powerful tool in connecting you with the world, expanding your friendship circle and a tool to help you share important messages. If used incorrectly, social media will have you lost in a circle of comparison and feeling depressed. Below you will find 5 things to make you feel instantly better if social media is making you feel depressed.
Here are 5 things to remember when social media makes you feel bad or depressed:
1. Social media is a highlights real
Does it always look like the people you are following are always out having fun? It is wonderful that they are happy and enjoying themselves but their social media feed will be the highlights of their life. They will have days where they are sat at home binge-watching Netflix in their PJs but don’t document it. You never really know what someone is going through. Behind the smiles and fun of their feed is real life. Even with successful people, they document their achievements but you don’t see the hard work and failures that have lead them to that point. Social media users only upload their best bits and photos of them doing something of interest. You don’t see how many photographs it took to get that ‘perfect’ one to upload. A great filter and a flattering angle do wonders to make people look their best and photo editing can easily enhance that.
2. ‘Likes’ mean nothing in the real world
Social media is a constant battle for more followers, likes and shares but these do not reflect friendships in real life. I have experienced ‘popular’ social media users, that seemingly have everything, that actually struggle when it comes to real friendships. Consider if social media ended tomorrow would you have any friendships left? If the answer is no it is time to make new friends, if the answer is yes then you are doing just fine.
3. Stop comparing and love yourself
The bikini wearing fitness model you’re following on Instagram has worked hard for years to look like that. You can’t possibly compare yourself to her. You never really know what is going on behind the scenes and social media is great at hiding those flaws. Everyone is on their own path. Start being kind to yourself and follow these steps on how not to compare yourself to others.
4. Only follow accounts that make you feel good
If a specific account or person makes your tummy do a flip whenever you see their content, unfollow them. Motivation does not come from comparison. Only follow accounts that make you feel good and inspire you in positive ways.
5. Social media is not validation
Social media can not be used to validate anything about you. Concentrate on your path and make yourself happy. If social media is starting to make you feel distanced from the real world, lonely amongst society or anxious about where your life is going…. log off! Delete the apps, take a social media break and enjoy experiencing real memories through your eyes, not your phone. Set yourself boundaries for using it and make sure you switch off when spending time with loved ones. Here’s how to spend time alone and be happy. Please remember, social media is only as powerful as the control you let it have.
Let me know in the comments, how does social media have a negative impact on you?